Be A Stay at Home Mom and Be Happy
Be A Stay at Home Mom and Be Happy
7 Steps to Help You Become the Mom Your Kids Deserve
I’ve been a SAHM for almost 13 years and I’m still learning new ways to be happy day in and day out. Being at home with the kids all day every day is lonely, exhausting and can put you in a depressed state very easily.
Just like working outside the home, being a stay-at-home mom has its own challenges.
You’re with your littles from the time they wake up till the time they go to sleep. There are days or maybe weeks that the only interaction you have is with them or your other half. That can make you go insane itself. I know there are days where I’m counting the minutes until my fiancĂ© gets home just so I have someone to talk to about my whole morning and that one little exciting thing that happened.
Your wondering around your house like a lost kitten at times.
You can only play peek a boo so many times before you lose your mind. There’s only so many puzzles you can put together or so many times you can watch your little one go down the same slide.
It can become very repetitive quicky doing the same thing day in and day out.
I’ve come up with a list of things that will help you stay out of the SAHM funk. Even when you’re stuck in the house day after day.
1. Start A Schedule
Start a little schedule. From the moment you wake up in the morning till you lay down at night. Kids like knowing what’s going to happen. They adapt very quickly. Do you want a little hour or two mid-day to refresh your thoughts, get them to take a nap. Trust me, once they start it’ll get easier.
2. Shower and Get Ready
I know, I know, this sounds easier then said. It’s so easy to stay in your pajamas all day when you’re not leaving the house. I was stuck there for quite some time. I found getting a shower every day and putting clean clothes on, putting some makeup on and straightening my hair instantly was a mood lifter. You’ll feel like a new mom knowing you did something for yourself. Check out Get Yourself Together for some quick tips!
3. Get Out of the House
Leaving the house sometimes feels draining more than it is helpful. I found that if I leave the house, I’ll come home happier. Get outside, for a walk, go walk around Target or the mall if you still have one, go to the park, the library. Even if it’s 45 minutes in the car going to pick up my son from practice, I have my music blaring, and no one needs me for that 45 minute. It’s a moment to refresh my brain.
4. Start a Morning Routine
This ties in with a morning schedule. Except do things that are just go you! Check out Morning Routine if you haven’t but start prioritizing yourself. Get up earlier, do a quick workout, read, journal, meditate, paint your nails, or just sit in the silence and enjoy it. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing, put it in your morning and fulfil your needs.
5. Don’t Stress About the Small Things
The laundry will always be there. Dishes will always need to be done. Toys will be there later to pick up. Remember to not let the tedious everyday things get in the way of enjoying the time you get with your kids. It can all wait; you only get one shot at them growing up so try to be present with them and don’t stress about the small things that can wait. If you want to know how I manage that, check out my Sunday Reset blog!
6. Take Time to Yourself
If you have the opportunity to take alone time, take it! If your other half is home and you have the time to go do something by yourself or with a friend, go! Your mental health will thank you for it! If that looks like taking an hour just driving in your car with your favorite songs on repeat or going to sit in the woods with your favorite book, go get your nails done, go out for a coffee by yourself or with a friend. Whatever you find the time to do or want to do, take the time to gather your thoughts and remember you’re more than a mom!
7. Stay Positive
This stage only lasts for so long. Embrace it! Enjoy it! Before you know it, you’ll be sending them off on the school bus to their first day or Kindergarten and you’ll be wishing for these moments for just one more day.
Remember to Embrace Every Moment!
Don’t let the repetitive actions, the loneliness at times and the anxious thoughts put you in a depressed mood. Embrace the opportunity that you get to raise your children at home. Enjoy the time watching them grow into the amazing humans they become. Take it all in and do these things to stay happy on your journey as a stay-at-home mom!
You don’t have to be perfect and everything won’t go the right way, but the one thing that you can do is be happy!
