Am I A Good Mom? When You’re Questioning Everything

Are they going to look back on their childhood and remember all of my bad days and mistakes I made?

Do you ever question if you’re doing what’s best for your kids? Do you ever wonder if you’re a good mom at the end of the day?

Are you raising them the way society is telling you to?

Are you teaching them how to be independent but yet still giving them enough help when they need it?

Do you find yourself asking yourself if they’re eating the right foods or drinking enough water.

Are you getting overstimulated way to often and wonder if they are noticing? Do you yell too much?

Are they learning to be responsible, kind, respectful young adults?

Am I allowing then to be themselves?

Did I play with them enough today? Did I let them watch too much TV?

Am I saying no to them too much? Am I allowing them to do to many things and never say no?

Many of these questions I ask myself daily. I’m finding getting overstimulated and frustrated at the littlest of things is one of the hardest parts of parenting for me.

Let’s face it, 4 kids is a lot some days. Even 1 kid can become overwhelming with the thoughts of they will someday be an adult. They will take what you teach them and what you give them and implement it into their own children.

I know as a mom of 4, there are probably more days than not that I’m needing to take a breather. Whether it’s because everyone is needing me at all times of the day. There’s always laundry to be done, something needs cleaned and dirty dishes in the sink. There are so many noises. There’s always somewhere we need to be, someone wanting to go somewhere or be somewhere. A million questions a day. Can I get this, can I get that. I need this, I need that. Our brains don’t get a second of peace.

Did I miss an appointment yesterday, is there an appointment coming up? Did my son get his homework done? Are uniforms washed for the game tomorrow? Did I forget to pay the internet bill?

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Sometimes it’s not because I’m mad or upset, there are times I don’t really have a reason. It just happens.

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Are my kids noticing anything I do?

You wonder to yourself, are my kids paying attention. Not to only what you’re asking of them but are they noticing when I’m getting frustrated? Do they see the water start to boil at the top of my head? (If you’re needing a little more inspiration for being the best mom you can be, click here for some tips!)

They do!

At least at a certain age they start to notice. They start to pick up on habits you create. Habits you use daily.

When you’re being told “you go outside and sit Mom when you need a break”, you know they’re watching and listening to you.

I wasn’t sure how I felt about that when those words came out of my daughters’ mouth. Am I really that transparent with my feelings. Am I showing too much of my emotions? Should I be showing that much of my emotions? Are they going to look back on their childhood and that’s all they’re going to remember?

You see, I’m glad my kids are able to pick up on my coping skills. I hope one day they will notice when they’re needing a break. I hope they will find a way for them to center themselves and bring themselves back to a good place. I want them to be able to take words from another person and use it for the better and not get mad.

The next time you find yourself questioning if you’re a good mom, remind yourself: You Are!

To the mom who had the TV on all day today to get caught up on some much-needed cleaning, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who didn’t give in to screen time today, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who gave her kids cereal for dinner because you didn’t make it to the store for food, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who made a 3-course meal just for your kids to say they don’t like it, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who said no to her daughter going to a friends because you just wanted a day with no running, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who said yes again to your daughter having a sleepover, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom whose kid had to wear a dirty uniform to a game because it was hidden under all the piles, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who hand washed their teens uniform, so it was cleaned, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who chose to clean their teens’ bedroom because sometimes it’s easier to just do it yourself, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who had a fight with their teen because they needed to clean their room, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who had a full-blown meltdown and yelled at your kids today, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who knew it was time to step outside to take a break after hearing everyone fighting with each other, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who missed that appointment because you read your reminder text wrong and showed up 4 hours later, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who shows up half an hour early to all of the appointments, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who lives in her pajamas every day because you never seem to leave the house and what’s the point, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who gets dressed, makeup done, and hair curled everyday just because, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who stays home to raise her children, You Are A Good Mom!

To the mom who takes her littles to daycare so you can help financially support your family, You Are A Good Mom!

Yes, You Are A Good Mom!

When you find yourself questioning whether you’re doing things the right way or if you should be doing things differently because that’s how you see other moms doing it, give yourself the gentle reminder that motherhood isn’t once size fits all. When you look at your kids and they are happy, cared for, healthy and loved, know that you are doing a great job at being their mom!